( I have shortened the blog about 4500 words. May write some 'tea' later blog)
I am told stuff, that, I probably should not know. I often think it is because the person who tells me, can't really tell anyone else and it not be all over the community. And it is often the spouse who tells me, and the cheater, often, doesn't know, that they know.
And I am often shocked when I hear who the person(s) involved are.
And to my surprise it is more prevalent than you realize.
Which makes me wonder in reality how naive is the old Govteach?
Often the spouse of the cheater does not know that their spouse is " running around" as it was once referred to, until the husband or wife contracts an STD. And it is generally Chlamydia. Sometimes it is an STD that antibiotics will not cure.
Many times I am told about a divorce and wonder if there is no intimacy in the marriage, and more times than not, the wife whose husband is being unfaithful will say, " I have been sleeping with him regularly" or " I have been doing stuff for him...... sometimes I am doing things that I find disgusting. Because I love him...." " And he cheated anyway."
I have had guys tell me they have come home and found their wives in bed often with " A relative....or a close friend."
What kind of a relative or friend has sex with another person's spouse?
Answer: A sorry-ass individual-
Most of the time, and this is pretty much commonly known, where people find their affair partner is at the job....At work....
It's about 70% of affairs start at the workplace.
And the people who cheat more than any other?
Well, many of you are in this profession and it isn't in education.( And you'd be shock at it the number of people have affairs in the school business, and Buna was not one of them....Or if it was, they kept it well hidden, which could have been the case, as there were some of us who wondered. Other schools I was at, well, people were asked to resign because the kids caught them in the act on top of the science lab tables....Cut up a frog yesterday, screw an English teacher today. An all purpose table, just different kinds of science experiments. .....We'll let you guess what field has the biggest cheaters. I don't want to get letters from people in that field saying " I never cheated...." I did not say you did....
And I know for some of you , it is difficult to behave...
To which I call BS....
My first teaching job was in adult education-
I was hired to do a combination of US Citizenship classes and GED classes. The school was part of Beaumont ISD.
When I was hired, little did I know that most of the "classes" would involved one-on-one instruction, and my "shift was from 1pm until 9pm in the evening. M-Th. Friday I worked a normal 8-4 shift.
From 4pm until 9pm, I had the school to myself. I had keys to the building to lock up, and would lock in Joe Rodriquez, who work nights as custodian. It was his second job. He was a mechanic at the local BMW, Jaguar, Land Rover, Peugeot dealership. There was one in Beaumont at the time.
The majority of my students were females, ages 25-55 mostly in their 30s, mostly getting a GED because they were either getting a divorce, or were in the process of getting one, not all, but many.
They were and considered themselves as Cougars, MILFs, MILFYs, and the school was a place they got away from home.
I was not the Kerry Thomas you got at Buna. I was 22 years old, still had hair, wasn't a fat tub of goo, and I dressed fairly well, ( I always have dress well, or tried to)
I had just started dating St. Debbie and I have always kept my dating life fairly private. And even though, I knew Deb was " the one" she played typical " poker face" Deborah. I did not know she was smitten until she told me later. And likewise knew this is the one. Once again, this was early in the relationship. ( My then girlfriend was very stoic in our relationship. She cried once, when we decided that we were exclusive, I thought I had messed up, when in reality, she was happy, and when I proposed, she started jumping up and down with excitement...)
But back to my first job in education.
I had to watch myself at all times.
The women, thought nothing of being handsy, putting their hands on my upper thigh, patting me on the rear as they walked by, putting their head on my shoulder.
And there were all sorts of propositions.....
Had one ask me, " Kerry, when's the last time you've had a piece of a$$?" ( In adult ed, you were called by your first name)
Another when we were working on her algebra lesson said, " You know, old p*ssy is better than no p*ssy." " I can make it happen."
As we were closing up for a Thursday, a 30something tells me, " My husband is at on Mobil graveyards, and the kids will be in bed, why don't you came by the house about 12:30am?" " I have 'protection' if you are worried about that."
On my desk one evening was a key to the old Ridgewood Inn on I-10. There was a note attached saying, " I'll be there about 11pm, And it was signed D.B. ( I took the key by the hotel the next morning and told the clerk " This was left at our school.")
My now wife's initials for her maiden name was the letter "B." I called her and asked to make sure she'd not been to Beaumont, she hadn't. ( The first time my wife and I spent the night together in a hotel room was on our wedding night.)
I had one in the middle of an English lesson tell me..." Let me know, I can rock your world."
And I thought it would get better once I started getting Debbie to come by school and I actively put my arm around her, give her kisses as she left.
If anything, it got worse.
I am not Casanova, I am not Don Juan, I am not a flirt. I am certainly not a libertine.I am convinced my wife and I were made for one another, we are hooked up sort of the same way. The only person I act as a roue' with is my wife, and well, I feel if you are " into someone" you should show it especially husbands and wives to one another.
I never put myself in a place to run-around..... It is part of the reason behind the "Cuss Porch."
As I have told you I moved my lectern into the corner of my classroom as to not be aware of what color under-attire my female students were wearing that day, or not be able to see all the way to St. Louis if none were remember when dressing that morning. I wanted both of us to maintain some dignity. You must remember, I believed, one of my jobs in teaching was to try and protect my students. Even though you were grown individuals.
I have a problem with people who stray outside their marriages. I could name names if I wanted, but I don't for several reasons. You know who you are. You know who you are hurting. Some of you are the same people who get all up in arms about the people in Paul's letters to Cornith, yet, you ignore what you are doing.....And I know I have done plenty of wrong things, Lord knows I have sins, but when you do things that harm your family.....
Well, thus endth today's lesson....
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