Guys, This One is For You

I am hesitant writing this blog. It was suggested about 3 weeks ago before Christmas by a couple of female blog readers.

At first, I thought it was some sort of a trap until I spoke to one of the persons who suggested the blog.

Both who suggested the blog are friends, so I am sure, they dared each other to write me and request the blog.

You would be amazed at the private messages I get....They amazed, shock me.

One is single, one is married and I spoke to the one who is married. And they were serious when I spoke to them and started to cry.

And again, I am hesitant writing this blog.

As most of you know, whatever a couple agrees upon in the bedroom, well, you have at it. Swing from the chandlers. Dress up as wookie. Do it in the garage. You know, if it makes you happy and BOTH agree, have at it.

Both of my writers were concerned with more stuff becoming involved in their sex like that the male partner has seen in some porn movie online.

The internet is wonderful. It is the Library at Alexandria.....At the same time, it is Satan on earth.

It seems his latest is making her deep-throat his pecker. It is so bad, he shoves it down her throat by grabbing the back of her head, or grabbing her hair, or her ears, and sticking down her throat, making her gag, and apparently, a few times, vomit......Then, if that isn't bad enough, he shoots his baby batter on her face and in her eye, to which she has already had pink eye from it and had a visit to the doctor.

And this seems to be getting worse.

Both wrote about guys now wanting to choke them during sex. The single one was dating a guy who choked her so much one time she passed out.

And the single one was amazed at the number of guys who expected sex after the first date, or they expected the girl to pay for the date in "that manner." ( Even had a girl ask for "her half" of the date for not having relations with the guy afterward...)

This is a guy who grew up in an era who thought he was lucky if the girl gave him a kiss after the first date, heck I fell off the porch into the Azalea Bushes after he'd walked a girl up the steps to her door, went to kiss her, and she'd already walked away, with him doing a nose dive into the bushes. 

I'm also a guy who waited until marriage, and I understand how lucky we got there compatibility wise.  And I don't expect people to be so in 2020. It's a different world. Look, I dated a girl whose family had a chaperone on all dates, and well, that did not work so well because after 6 months, we knew nothing about one another's true personality. ( we broke up after the 6 months)

But, that needs to be agreed between both parties and honestly, you need to discuss this stuff.

The married one said that her husband has been "hinting" about bringing another person into their bedroom life, a friend of his, I am assuming a male.( I am guessing a threesome) And she's upset about that. And I don't blame her.

I told her, you need to say no, and if you are that unhappy and afraid, apparently,  some of the stuff if scaring her, you may need to "get out."

But I don't know about this seeing stuff online in and trying to incorporate it into your bedroom life. It's between both you, and if both of you enjoy it, more power to you, but some of this stuff online, well, it is not the real world, positions are done for camera angles. Raping your mate thinking that is okay? Well, you know, stuff hurts. Why? Makes me wonder about your psychological make-up.

I am writing this because I know a this will be read by one's significant other. And I am thinking one who is dating, person they are seeing.

In truth, I don't know if I want comments or not. And no, not going to tell you who they are, and to be honest, the messages sort of surprised me who had written them.